Singing star accused of spreading HIV

28 year old German-Moroccan No-Angels star Nadja Benaissa is being called a monster for having unprotected sexual relations with three men, when she knew she was HIV positive(and they didn't).She has been aware of her status since she was 17 when she discovered after a routine pregnancy checkup when she was 3 months into expecting her now 12 year old daughter. The man who is said to have infected her is a French footballer of Senegalise origin-who is also said to have had relations with her, knowing he was HIV positive.

After discovering her status,she and her future partners used protection, later the condoms were discarded when the relationships became more serious.

Nadja claims her doctors told her chances of transmitting the infection were next to nil, so she believed she was not putting anyone at risk. One of the men was found to be HIV positive-he found out from Nadja's aunt and had a test. He later accused her in court, though it is yet to be established whether he was infected from having sexual relations with her. The other two men tested negative. She also made a tearful apology in the German court saying she should have handled the situation differently.

The singer admitted to have been addicted to crack cocaine at 14 said that now that her HIV status was public knowledge she would have to make the best of things.She commented about living with HIV."I am actually completely healthy, not sick. I am HIV positive. Being HIV positive doesn't mean being ill. If the disease breaks out it is called AIDS. I have a completely normal life expectancy."

Nadja smiled throughout the trial and maintained a demure appearance in formal shirt-different from the showbiz attire she's normally photographed in. She faces between 6 months and 10 years in jail if convicted of causing bodily harm or attempting to cause bodily harm.

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Check out the video of the court session on the bbc website
http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-europe-10983227

Twisted Hela

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For others, money represents a tool their parents used to manipulate, torture and torment them, to control them and vent out their frustrations in life.(am i made of money???why are you always asking me for money? You think money grows out of trees?)

Money means love, where your rich daddy lavished you with gifts when you were good (and he was away on business trips most of the time)and refused to give you pocket money when you were bad.

At the same time, how you relate with money is also another complexity. Some people hold tight to it ,never letting go, lest they become poor,(and display irritating miserly qualities that drive away friends who feel they are being taken advantage of) others spend it even before they get it in the hopes of buying approval and obtaining with some luck, the luxury lifestyle they always dreamed of(as a result they are almost always in debt, borrowing from friends who end up feeling they are being taken advantage of)

Even employers reel you in using money, they pay you so that before then end of the month you are literaly begging for pay day to hurry up and come along, so u can be free to pay for this and that, and continue living. 

Men use money to reward and punish(no sex,no housekeeping money) and women too choose men according how much money there are willing to lavish on them(others choose men according to their earning potential

All these complexities are like a sensitive ulcer, kidonda ndugu, one that won’t heal. So if you are lending or borrowing money, you are dealing with that parties wounds. no wonder most people are logical until it comes to discussing money, when the argument you have with your friend about the loan, is really an assertion of freedom from their Dad who controlled them with money...etc etc